Believe it or not, ghosting has actually been around for decades. People have disappeared or avoided situations they didn’t particularly feel like facing. Today, with fast-paced technology, saying hi and ignoring someone is much easier than before. But the thing about ghosting is how disrespectful it can be and how odd that most people today accept it as a norm.
There are two types of ghosting, or at least from what we’ve encountered. The first and possibly the most common type of ghosting is in the dating scene. You know, when you’re in the talking stage with someone and all of a sudden they go missing. And sometimes after a week or two (or maybe even months), they show up again with the super random “hi, how r u?”.
And the worse part is you don’t really know how to feel about the whole situation because both of you are not committed. So you can’t expect the other person to not ghost but you’ll surely feel disrespected. In cases like these, we usually speak our minds and tell them that it’s not nice to just go MIA. Sometimes we even end the conversation there, cause there’s really no point in continuing something that won’t work out.
Now the other type of ghosting is in the professional atmosphere. Yes, these do happen. Like when someone accepts a job interview or agrees to a meeting, but doesn’t turn up. Large amounts of texts and calls go to no avail. We’d like to give the person the benefit of a doubt, that maybe, just maybe, something went wrong that day. But how do you make excuses for someone in an executive situation like this?
Overall, as much as ghosting is part of our everyday lives, we honestly wish this word or this whole gesture didn’t exist. Because it truly makes life that much harder needing to deal with the aftermath of being ghosted. So as you’re getting ready to dress up as a ghost this Halloween, contemplate ceasing this act of ghosting in your real life.
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